We consider selfishness as a negative attribute of a person. You may have seen a politician calling his opposition party / leader selfish. By saying selfish things, they try to put the opposition leader in the negative light. In general, a man gets angry when he is called a ‘Selfish person’ by others because we always take selfishness in a negative light. We see selfishness at many work places where one thinks that others are selfish people & doing something with self motive.

Selfishness is one of the main reasons for disputes between two parties. You may have seen many organisations having their slogans something like ‘selfless service’ only to make their way different. They show to the world that they aren’t selfish people & working without the motive of selfishness.

Selfishness is the situation when a person thinks of himself first and remaining things come after that for him. For instance, imagine a few people coming together for a particular social cause. After some time, a main member of that organisation left the organisation for personal benefit. Here, he is supposed to be called a selfish man because he didn’t leave his personal motive / benefit for the sake of the motive of the organisation. Such examples are present in every field of the world.

We could say that sometimes, people take decisions with selfishness involved in it & get a tag of selfish people.

Our way of looking at this is totally different. We urge you to become selfish and once you become selfish, you’re going to get immense self motivation but there is a condition attached to it. After following this condition, the habit of selfishness is going to be good for you. You are going to get self-motivation and confidence by becoming selfish in this way. After a while, this world is going to appreciate your selfishness provided you follow the condition unconditionally.

The Condition

Become selfish for the progress of world , for the true progress of you .

Earlier, you used to become selfish for yourself only. Where you think about yourself all the time before everything, people start degrading you in society. Which could be a reason for your stress in your life. In general, few indicators of selfish people are (which is considered in many societies) – less talk to others, privacy in even small things & so on. So, while you start working in your spare time for the betterment of the world.

By natural means, you won’t have time to see other people & talk to them.

But, when you apply our condition and show selfishness for the progress of society. When you work to improve the future for us in one way or another, people are going to appreciate your efforts after a certain period of time. When they would understand that you ignore others but for the betterment of others. They would start respecting you more than ever. Which is going to be a reason for immense self-motivation for you. Which is the highest earning of living, I guess.

It may be possible that in the beginning people may start calling you a selfish man & ignore you many times. But, the act which you are engaged in, which is for the betterment of the world is going to reflect its result slowly in the society. Once it reaches people, they are going to change their opinion for you. They are going to understand the motive behind your selfish behaviour.

Here, I’m not just talking about doing social work or to be engaged in social work but you could serve the world to make it better in many ways. It is not possible for me to discuss all the ways. Also, there are ways which are far from my reach, my reach of thoughts. But, which could be possible for you. So I’m going to discuss a situation/e.g. to become selfish and get self-motivation.

For Eg .

Imagine, You are a working professional & get one holiday in each week. Apart from this, you get one hour spare with you everyday, when you don’t have any work to do. Now, you are concerned about the world and you know that in a couple of years there is going to be a shortage of water in many countries of the world. Caring about it, you start researching how to save water. There could be many measures for it & one way is Rain Water Harvesting. For broader information about water scarcity, see UN-Water’s water scarcity information.

The process may be costly for many but you research more in order to find ways to make the Rain Water Harvesting process affordable for everyone. For that, you start experimenting and studying a lot. Whatever time you get, you spend in this process to make it possible for you and for society.

Your vision is to save more and more water on earth in order to make the living of our future generation better. All along, you have to ignore other things to make your vision possible. It could be family things, It could be friends. On holiday, you were supposed to visit your relatives but you chose to give time for your vision. You don’t go to visit your relatives, instead you work for your dream. Due to which, it is possible that differences would come up between you and your relatives.

They would think and count you as selfish people. The same problem could happen to your family, friends or with others in your circle because now you have no time for them, instead you give time to your vision. Actually, you are giving time to them indirectly.

Concluding Part

Now, you’ve come in the category of selfish people for the world but you must be proud of yourself that you are selfish but for a harmonious purpose. Which is good for humanity, for future generations, for every single person who is calling you selfish. Your actions and vision are going to reflect one day in society because every action has a reaction. The world is going to know your right doing behind your selfishness. They’re going to appreciate it with both hands.

This is why we say that we become selfish and feel self-motivation.

A meaningful personal goal can also be supported by Radical Self Compassion when reflection and confidence are part of the journey.

For people balancing a strong personal vision with family responsibilities, Mastering Work-Life Harmony can also be relevant.

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